A Woman Should Have

MAYA ANGELOU'S"
BEST POEM EVER



A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...

enough money within her control to move out
and rent a place of her own,
even if she never wants to or needs to...


A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...

something perfect to wear if the employer,
or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour...


A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...

a youth she's content to leave behind....


A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...

a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to
retelling it in her old age....


A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .....

a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra...


A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE....

one friend who always makes her laugh... and one who lets her cry...


A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE....

a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family..


A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...

eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems,
and a recipe for a meal,
that will make her guests feel honored...


A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...

a feeling of control over her destiny...


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

how to fall in love without losing herself..


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

how to quit a job,
break up with a lover,
and confront a friend without;
ruining the friendship...


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

when to try harder... and WHEN TO WALK AWAY.


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

that she can't change the length of her calves,
the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents...


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

that her childhood may not have been perfect...but it's over...


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

what she would and wouldn't do for love or more...


EVERY WOMAN SHOU LD KNOW...
how to live alone... even if she doesn't like it...


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW.. .

whom she can trust,
whom she can't,
and why she shouldn't take it personally...


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

where to go...
be it to her best friend's kitchen table...
or a charming inn in the woods..
when her soul needs soothing...


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

what she can and can't accomplish in a day...
a month..and a year...


SEND THIS TO 3 WOMEN....

You will have good luck for an entire day..


SEND THIS TO 6 WOMEN.... 

you will have good luck for all of the year or if nothing else... 
you know that you are truly loved and thought of by the friend,
who sent this to you...
and that she only wishes the best for you and your life...





Happiness is not something you find, It's something you create.

Nothing in this world is IMPOSSIBLE as the word is "I M POSSIBLE".

LIFE IS NO WHERE - can be read as - LIFE IS NOW HERE.

This is the reality of life. It depends how you treat it. Be Positive. Keep smiling, it improves your face value...

One of the things I hate

I know I shouldn't write this note but for those of you who really want to share it with the rest of the world then cut and paste it but make sure you let everyone know that Whitney L Johnson wrote this moment of truth.


As I walked through the hall anger washed over me. Actually from the moment I entered the party that I had attended earlier tonight at someone's house is when my fire was started. Now my fire is ablaze and if someone looked into my eyes they would be amazed because the cool hatred that was there would kill with just one glance if directed at the right person and given the chance. I am beginning to realize that there are three things in life that I hate but the one thing that I hate most especially in relation to my friends is seeing them cry. I've written poems that have been related to my friends emotions on more than one occasion but this time I'm too angry to even muster the sanity and creativity to just write a poem, I'll save that for later on today. I hate watching my friends cry over guys who don't deserve there affection or attention. And I know that I have done it myself and that a lot of girls continue to do it every night right before they go to sleep or right before facing the world and making everyone think everything is ok, when in fact it is not. I HATE these flaw...no I am going to speak completely correctly with this one. I HATE men or young men or boys or anyone of the male population who dares disrespect any female. I don't care what she did or did not do for him, no women deserve to have a broken heart and soaked pillow. And we've all had that at least once in our lives either the heartache or soaked pillow, some have had both. Its truly not fair that no matter what a girl does it seems she can't find a guy who is worth her all. Or maybe that is just out here with most of the black males on this campus. Even the one's with girlfriend aren't that great, which is sad because it makes it hard for a girl to trust anyone. 

Anyways let me focus on a point through all this nonsense and sleep deprived babble. A girl is priceless. Not worth the best sex you have to offer, an amazing night of unforgettable "head" that you can do in a hand stand ...cough....or any other sexual thing that a guy has to offer. A girl is worth more than being shown attention when you are ready or when you are not getting your own share. A girl is worth more than a guys pride, which at times needs to be put aside. A girl is worth more than lame lines and unoriginal game. A girl is worth more than a midnight snack and late nights of momentary heat. She is worth more than anyone person can fathom. And that's only talking about a GIRL! Now a young lady or a woman not only is priceless but she DESERVES BETTER THAN THE BEST! And ladies, along with some of the gentlemen out there, all need to realize that this is true. Since a women deserves BETTER THAN THE BEST than means it could be she no longer needs to wait for this guy who continue to play games and look past the 80% in his life for the 20%. ( Watch Tyler Perry's "Why did I get married?" to understand the concept). Ladies we have to sometimes let go of our seemingly 80% to find that 100% we are looking for and that we deserve.They saying is "if you really care about someone you have to let them go and if they come back to you that's how you know". Meaning that it's time to them those guys go and see what happens. Sometimes we have to look past our heart and actually listen to our heads when it screams "NO" and "STOP". Because that is logic kicking in trying to save your heart from having its shattered pieces ground into dust. I am beginning to take my own advice and may have stumbled onto someone that is different but I know that before anything I am going to make sure I get everything I DESERVE and that he treats me like I'm PRICELESS! 

I am tired of guys playing these games with girls head and hearts. In the end it seems like the only person who truly ends up hurt is the female. I am tired of guys confusing a girl to the point of no return and then when she moves on in any shape or form he has the audacity to be JEALOUS or HURT! WHO THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU ARE? Please someone explain this double standard. These guys expect girls, young ladies...WOMEN to sit around and wait for them to get tired of their games and be ready to say the "c" word and settle down but in the meantime these lovely women have to sit and wait in a corner with a blindfold on without exploring an ocean that has men who are willing to settle down with them and have not the "c" but the whole word, COMMITMENT, tattooed on their head. These guys want the appetizer, the entree, the sides, the dessert, the left overs, the drink and anything else they can stuff down their throats and include in their meal while the "main" sits in a corner and waits for him to finish with all of that and turn his attention back on her....And again I have to ask WHO THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU ARE? Some of these women that are in corners waiting on you, are turning away BLACK PEARLS to settle for common COPPER! ( Black Pearls are real and very hard to find. They're worth hundreds or thousands while copper is only worth a hundredth...think about that.) 

Well I'm done for now....It's late and I'm tired. If you want to read my other note entitled I'm the girl and there is also one entitled Some Problems I have, these two notes address some issues a lot better and more coherently than this note probably did. Leave your comments, concerns and advice. 

Whit "Truthful" Johnson

I'm the Girl...

I'm the girl your mother told you about and the female that your boys warn you about. I'm the girl that scares you and makes you play games. I'm the girl that will make everyone other girl just seem lame. I'm the girl in your dreams. I'm the girl that will be there to the end because I'm more than just a lover and a friend. I'm the girl that makes you put away your cane, put an end to your player game and make you say the "c" word over and over again. I'm past the status of the "main", I'm better than "wifey" or the "old lady" and I can do more than rock your world. I'll make you see heaven when you make love to me. I'm better than the girl in your fantasy....Who am I you ask? I'm the girl who will make you forget your past, savor the present and look forward to the future. I'm the girl that you will get on one knee in the rain just to claim that I will forever be your everything....That's me.


Now the problem with that is the fact that most guys aren't ready to just have one girl at a time, which is the downfall of most women. I am not better than the next girl by any means or judging anyone in this note. I'm just saying what I AM and what is expected of me are two different things that are at opposite ends of the spectrum. Due to the fact that a girl cannot have a relationship by herself, she will settle for whatever a guy is willing to give her since she is only left with that option. That is not fair by any means. Most girls want more than just momentary pleasure for one night, a fling, a booty call or even a “buddy”. I am not talking for every female because some people want just that, while others know that is all they can get and will settle for it without putting up a fight since they are tired of fighting.

A guy will consider a girl prude because she will not give it up on the first night. A guy will consider a girl a hoe is she plays the same games that he does everyday. A guy will consider a girl to play games because she turns him on and then stops him before they get to have sex. But did this guys ever think that the girl who won't give it up he first night could honestly just be too far above him and have higher standards than his doggish dumb horny ass. Or the hoe that plays the game that guys play, well in all honesty if she is a hoe then listen up and closely SO ARE YOU!No you are not a player or cool or a pimp you are just as nasty if you feel that way about a female doing the same thing you did, or as I call it "Flipping the script". Deal with it and move on. And another example is the girl that gave it up the first night might just be tired of waiting for the right guy because they no longer seem to exist and final gave it or you were lucky enough to be graced with getting with her for even that one night because she trusted or thought you could be different. Oh and the tease I can speak on from personal experience and since I have been given the nickname I might as well. The girl that you guys consider a tease sometimes don't really want to have sex with you or they would but remember that they have morals, values that they almost let hormones get the best of them and just have sex with you. Other times its something else that is going on that you wouldn't understand, but as for me, I honestly find it funny that a guy can't control themselves enough to pass a simple test and always try to have sex with every female they find somewhat attractive and that some guys are so used to getting it that easy they don't know how to act either. 

Oh most people want to know what the test is and that is can a guy wait long enough to get to know a girl. This test is put into effect because I personally know a female back in Broward County who is going around having unprotected sex with as many guys as she can. This girl has about seven different STD’s and she knows she has them. They are non-curable also. NOW I BET YOU ARE WONDERING WHAT THIS HAS TO DO WITH THE TEST….AND I WILL TELL YOU! The test is to see is a guy is willing to get to know me before he lays down with me because of the fact that he could be very willing to sleep with anyone and never know what they have since he just met them on the first night. Also, as a female I have more to loose than any guy does if we have sex and things go down hill. Why should I take the chance of catching something or getting pregnant just to help some guy I just met not have blue balls in the morning? Like I have been telling guys since middle school and yes I said middle school, “ God gave you a hand for a reason, so use it.”

Sorry for the rambling that was in there but I feel that was needed. In part because I continue to meet guys that I am attracted to just to find out all they want is a buddy…Sorry Boys but I want and well I deserve way more than that.

Different Types of Friends

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support,
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.




Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.








LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons,
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson,
love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life,

whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.

My Blessings

The other day I was sitting down and decided to count my blessings. My blessings at time seems short and few, but for those of you who don't know me you won't think its true. I feel that people see what they want when they are ready and due to that fact I am ready to see all my blessings.

One of my blessings is my family. They have put up with a lot for a long time and no matter what have loved me the whole way through. I mean I was not the easy little kid to raise either. I had an attitude and temper problems. I was mean and spiteful when I was ready. And those are just the things I can vouch for from memory. But anyways my family has been there when I feel like I have no one else, I can't make it to the next level and I am worth nothing at all because I did not succeed at my first attempt. They push me to be more than I have ever seen myself even if at times that mean suggesting I be an FBI Agent instead of teaching high school math. =) Either way they only want the best. 

My other blessing, or should I say blessingS, are my friends. Yes they are all truly amazing people that I love more and more each day! They make me see that there are other ways to look at things and that the box is really big! LOL. They teach me new things everyday and are my support system when I feel like I cannot go on. They are like my family when my actual family is not physically there because they do some of the same things for me.I could actually name my blessings as far as friends go but my thing right now is, if you are a TRUE friend, a TRUE BLUE, you will know that you are considered a blessing in my eyes. 

Right now I will stop because that's all I can see so far that is worth writing about and on top of that I am going to ramble since I don't know how to phrase it =P


(First picture: Ravens Nest)
(Second picture:Lilys-Garden)

Some problems I have....

There are various aspects of my life at the moment that are unclear to me and I would like to have perfect. But there is this little thing called "reality" that ruined that whole idea =)

There is the fact that people may perceive me in away that is not accurate. For one I am actually smarter than I care to show and at times I am shy or soft spoken. I don't like crowds and big scenes but I make the best of most situations because that is where I am. I have to be able to work with the world around me because I am apart of it and it does not revolve around me. I know that I am not the center of the universe, despite what some people may believe I think and as a side not, neither is anyone in the world the center of it, not one person or group of people so stop acting like you deserve the most respect when you barely show any that is truly sincere enough to be deemed respect.

And that's another problem I have, all the people who put themselves on pedestals for reason that must be past my mental capacity as an individual in the world or even on this campus. You may be older, possibly wiser or part of things that I am not but I will be damned before I bow down to kiss your feet or treat you like royalty. Don't act like you are better than me or anyone else for that matter because in reality that makes you less of a person. I feel that we should all work together to build each other up but instead it seems that people enjoy watching each other fall face first. I know that I am flawed but I accept that and work everyday to make myself better inside-out. Right now I am working on treating everyone the same and when I say everyone I mean EVERYONE! I will not treat you better because you are part of a certain culture, race, gender, organization, or even because you may be part of Greek lettered organization. I say this because people seem to treat them different and from the day I arrived on this campus I have been almost trained to do the same. They are people just like anyone who is not part of that organization. They have ups and down, laugh and cry and bleed red just like the rest of us. I will not allow for anyone to say to me that they can do certain things that I find to be rude because they are part of an organization, race, gender or anything. I am tired of being told to show them the greatest amount of respect possible and them show me none. I am not directing this to the Greeks on campus so don't go run off saying that I am. This is directed to all the people on campus who have shoved rules down my throat and made people who were/ are "apart of the Greek life" seem to be better or even different than the rest of the people who aren't. I do understand that there are certain things that should not be said or done out of respect but don't make it seem like if they are done then I could die tomorrow because every Greek would kick my ass! LOL SORRY.

Another major problem I have is the male population! Which I have always joked about even before I came to this school but it is to the point I am slightly disgusted. I don't want to say it is only the "Black Men" but they are the ones that I interact with most on campus so it's directed more so to them. Sorry to any of those men that I may offend. I am honestly tired of you,meaning men, treating women or young ladies or whatever word you use for the female population as being less than the wonderful creatures that we are. I do know that we don't always act the way we should and due to that it may cause some of the reactions that women get. I still do feel that as Gentlemen, and the men that will one day be the role models for the future generations of Men coming into the world, you need to step your game up. Stop being in "relationships" but trying to have sex with other females, stop dancing with us at the club like you are just trying to have sex from behind, stop calling us by other names (such as Bitch Hoe Whore Slut Tramp or anything else that is demeaning). I would love for one day to find a guy who could approach me and see me for more than just a sex object or a dumb little freshman that may one day fall for the upper class men charm and end up in their bed....SIKE! I am not as young minded as I may appear or even lead you on to believe. The truth is I find it funny to see you act like you brain is actually controlled by your sexual organs and not the other way around... It has become disgraceful and sad, not only for me as a female, but to know that people relate all of those traits to "Black Men".All I want is respect and to find a man out there who is mature enough to take a woman as a whole and not just the part he likes. But with the way people act I feel that It may be asking for a lot since its so hard to find.

Another problem I have is finding good friends. They seem to come in small amounts and only once in a BLUE MOON! I mean every time I think I found one, my bubble is burst lol! I mean it's not funny but it is true. I am tired of fighting for friendships when in the past it has caused nothing but heartache and soaked pillows at night! I want a friend that will for once fight for my friendship when they see for some reason I am giving up on them and they can't seem to figure out why. That may be a lot to ask for but those same people without saying a single word ask me to do the same thing all the time. I feel that all relationship need two people who are willing to do those things and that is why I say,"without them saying a word" they are asking me to fight but are not willing to put in the same work. I have amazing friends who I could name all right now and I will! NINA KESHA ESTHER ALTINA MELISA SHANTICE TAKIA SHEVUAN REFA CHRYSTAL!These girls are diamonds in the rock and are truly amazing in different ways! They are my blessing and curse! I say curse because I will do almost anything for them like they would do for me! I would fight with them , beside them and for them without being asked. Now some people's name do not appear on the list and only a few months ago I would have had their name their too but the truth of the matter is, a FRIEND has to show that they are a friend all the time. They have to make sure that they show it even when times are hard, they are uncertain of what to do, basically no matter what. I feel that even though I may be going through things in my own life I make damn sure that my friends feel the "friendship love" no matter what. I do this by simply turning to them and asking for a shoulder to cry on or just letting them know beforehand that I am going through something and may become distant. I don't call them once in a while to make it seem like things are cool and only facebook message them; whereas in the past I would talk to them everyday, write on their wall and actually spend time with them. But every year I grow more cold to those who make me work to damn hard on my end and don't seem to put in work in any relationship not just friendship. I am not going to stress anyone and yap their ear off about how I feel,and have things seems to get better as if we took four steps forward and then when that thing called "reality" steps in, I see I really took ten steps back! "I refuse to go down a road when I am not welcome, to get to a house that I was not invited to..."(A little Whitney quote there for you =)Also one last thing about friendship, don't try to be close to me when it seems that others have turned their back on you. Everyone knows that I am a sucker for my friends and will do almost anything but I will not be walked on or used by anyone and you should all know that. I will not allow anyone to make me feel like a back up friend or like I am not good enough to be in the front line until the people who they put way ahead of me drop them like bad habits. I am a better friend than I am given credit but won't sacrifice my feeling in that way to prove it. There are people who will be added to the list of friends that I roll for but until I feel that time is right, the list will remain to be only those people.

I have issues with my home life but that is not for the internet to see and more so for me to deal with on my own. Everything else though is up for grads, whether you want to give advice or say I am wrong and correct me then please do so

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Whitney "Truthful" Johnson