Whit in the World

Advice from my UOM. I needed to reread these words today. Love her no matter what. Get OK with being selfish it will help you pick someone who will treat you right and it will make you OK with aiming high with the men you date. I am learning people treat you the way you treat you. I had guys who ultimately treated me like a last resort and it took me a while to realize that I treat me  like a last resort. I always try to mention to you how important it is for you to fall in love with yourself . To get OK with being alone that way if it takes awhile to meet the right person. You won't find yourself filling the time with selfish and disrespectful  men who don't deserve you.

These words of advice and encoragement came as I was working through my broken heart with my ex-fiancé and re-entering the dating world. I am a hard critic on myself and my emotions. I beat myself down and blame myself for most things that are even out of my control . These words help to refocus my negative energy to a brighter light. I love you and trust and believe like I said before if he is not growing with you I mean really expanding with you in life baby let it go. You are too pretty for bs and foolery. You got your degree, you are a Zeta, you working on a masters, you are a teacher, you are a bad bish, a phenomenal woman, the epitome of beauty, and an authentic natural guru. Come on when! I talk to you I want to hear positive things. Everytime I talk to you,you tell me about the possibility of letting the relationship end. With my knowledge in psychology and sociology, to me that means there is a problem. I wanna hear positive things.I want to hear that you are completely,

Morning, Let today be a new start to an old situation. Sometimes we get blinded by our frustration of not being able to get out of certain patterns or resolve issues as quickly as we would like to. But today I say to you, it's over. Today you will make peace with it and the solution will appear or at least it won't bother you. You are blessed and highly favored, so everything will be fine. It may seem like it won't work out any time soon but always keep your eyes on the prize and head up. Never ever feel like you won't happen, just give it time because this is your time of preparation for greater blessings and joy. God doesn't want you overwhelmed so he is preparing you for what's ahead. Sharing what I told myself this morning just in case you needed it as well. Love you and keep pushing.

This post is a walk down #MemoryLane, celebrating my best friend's 23 birthday down on South Beach. 

Rebuilding Confidence After a Break-Up There are so many things that occur during relationships and breakups that can be devastating. Sometimes they are so bad you get completely knocked off your "high horse".  I am going to tell you one very simple thing, It's Okay. It is actually normal to get knocked at certain times in life but what is not acceptable is to stay down! You are not allowed to wallow in self-pity for an extremely long period of time. At most I would say that it is only okay to be in that stage for month or two. Anything more than that is asking for a level of depression, in which you will need to seek medical help, such as counseling. 

What makes you feel like a million dollars? This question is very simple. The perfect pair of heels!

Everything comes to some kind of end...or at least that is the hope. To speak from personal experience  will be the best thing for me to do. My closure moment wasn't spectacular  with fireworks, a long talk or anything of the sort. Instead, it was short and sweet, unlike the heartache.