Sunday, April 11, 2021

Kushy Klaw Review

 Whit Review, done in full effect. 

I love getting my nails done but there are times that it is difficult to get them done due to my schedule or sometimes finances. With Kushy Klaws I no longer have that dilemma! 

I was able to have my nails done within ten minutes before heading to my family's home for Thanksgiving! It was the best feeling ever. In addition to the fact that they look like I spent hours at the nail salon. 

Today I was excited to order more sets during their Black Friday Sale! If you are able to I would suggest checking out their site immediately. 


If you are interested in ordering any of the amazing products that were mentioned
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Tuesday, April 7, 2020

Worthy House Review

Whit Review, done in full effect. 
I have wanted to do a review for years and a vlog for a few months now. 
I am happy to combine both for these Worthy House products, which is owned by my dear friend Ju'lia the Editor-in-Cheif of Worthy Magazine. 


If you are interested in ordering any of the amazing products that were mentioned
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Saturday, February 8, 2020

Techniques to DeFunk



Have you ever hit that moment when every single thing is getting to you? 
Getting you upset? Angry? Annoyed? Sad? Flustered? Confused? Frustrated? 
Just getting you into a "negative headspace"?

Currently, this has been me for the past two days... well, possibly more but I am trying to face it head-on for the past two days and it is not working.

So, I am pulling out some of my old techniques and hoping that by the time I am done I will have the root of the problem nipped.

Monday, February 3, 2020

Ain't too Proud to Beg?

I would be lying if I said that I never begged for anything. I have begged, pleaded, and in certain situations lost all self-respect in the manner that I refused to let go.

With each situation, each circumstance, and each "chapter" in my life that has come and gone... I can say that the growth I have experienced is beyond words. I want to explain it to you but in all honesty, I don't know-how.

When I saw this post on Instagram it spoke to my soul on so many different levels it was a little scary but the two that stood out most related to dating and friendships.  The truth is that when you are dealing with a person, regardless if it is intimate or platonic, you should not have to beg for the basic parts of interactions that come with sincere relationships.

If a person loves you they will be there for you, not when it is beneficial for them but when they can be there. They will be there for you at your worst and celebrate your best with you.

They will care that you are down or the simple fact that you express to them how you feel about a situation hurting you, even if that means they are at the root of that pain.  They will work to rectify their wrongs and do better, not just in the moment to get you to be at ease and go back to dismissing their lax manner but genuinely trying to be a better counterpart.

They will actually talk to you and listen to what you have to say. Conversations beyond the basic "how are you", "what's new", or  "wyd". The conversations will not always be deep but they will always translate to something that is building a foundation for a long-lasting relationship that has room to grow with deposits and withdrawals.

And finally, they will be willing at some point to put you first. This looks different on so many levels to so many people... the root of being put first though is when a person knows you well enough to know what they translate to. When I put someone first it may be something as simple as stepping away from a meeting or class to talk or it could be canceling my business event to ensure that I am giving my friend the time they need during a rough patch. Whatever the case it should be clear that they person is doing it... for some people, it means accepting responsibility for what they did in a situation that was wrong and not placing the blame on someone or something else.

I am not begging, initiating, or in any way hinting at "it". The "it" is the time and energy that should be given if a person truly cares. This goes for dating and friendships, especially. I know I am busy, Lord knows it is not an excuse for anyone to use against me as to why they do not try to make time for me. Truth is when I know someone wants to be around I find a way to make time and put in the effort.

I challenge you to not beg for what you deserve but to love and respect yourself enough to know that you can walk away from people who force you to beg when the truth is they wouldn't think twice about leaving you if you treated them the way they treated you.

Love ya,
Life Guru

Worthy Magazine
#WhitInTheWorld

Sunday, February 2, 2020

Asking for What I Want

I think some of the men I've had the "pleasure" of dating lately are emotionally unavailable and utilize my kind-hearted disposition unintentionally to feel affection while they heal. All done subconsciously but none the less done to fill a void but in the process realize they don't actually want me for whatever reason BUT keep coming around because there is something that they can't understand that tethers them to my spirit/ energy/ aura...

So I am asking God and all the energies at be to bless me with a man that is emotionally open to developing a relationship with me from a genuine place. That has a real chance of blossoming into a relationship if that is what is in store for us. And I ask God and the all the energies at be to bless me to let go of the hope of love from a man I know is so broken he still can't love me the way I deserve. I ask that my energy doesn't ooze desperately for affection or attention but truly gives off that I am deserving of more than just basic moments of physical companionship.

I am asking for what I want... I want to be blessed with a man that shows me my dream of true love and a husband is actually a reality in a chapter of my life I haven't yet read.


I say all that to say to each of you don't be afraid to ask for what you want and actually receive it!

If you want a relationship with a person beyond the physical or just deeper than you are receiving, ask for it. The worse that can happen is they say no BUT it is not bad at all because ultimately you just saved yourself time and energy that would ultimately lead to heartache.

I am asking you all the find the strength to ask for what you want in all realms of your life. I have done it in all parts of my life but the one area that I am afraid to do so is dating. I can honestly say that in all the other areas of my life that I jumped over the hurdle of fear has blessed me with a HUGE & POSITIVE outcome. It was not instantaneous but when it came through it surely was perfect, heaven-sent even!

So, with dating, I am starting to change my mindset to be able to better attract what I want and to also have the strength to ask the questions that I need to ask. I am also registering that certain answers are a no but coated in sugar because people do not want to let go of what they want... The infamous answer of "Let's see where this goes" or "Let's go with the flow" to my favorite question " Where do you see this going?"... The mindset shift is no longer asking that question but instead asking if the person currently wants to be in a committed relationship and if that is their goal in this dating process with me. Specific questions will eliminate the simplistic safe answer that is so open and coated is sugary bullsh*t that it closes doors before the situation can open any wounds.

Love ya,
Life Guru

Worthy Magazine
#WhitInTheWorld

Wednesday, October 9, 2019

Reflection

It has been a while but... I think it is time.


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And with that, let's dive right in. 

I have been reflecting on my life and realized that a lot of times I have said (as well as many other people), "I can't believe they did that to me" or "How could so-n-so do that to me?" 

What I have come to terms with is that people only do what you allow them to do. Now that is not to say that this applies in every situation and all circumstances. This is not a "blame the victim" moment at all but this is a stop being the victim in situations that you have to acknowledge what you allowed to happen. 

Situations where your friend says something that is completely disrespectful but think it is acceptable like they did nothing wrong. Situations where the guy/gal you are interested in continuously only contacting you for sexual encounters. The moment your friends stop contacting you but expect you to always contact them. When you realize your real friends are far and few in between but everyone wants you to treat them like they are gold, although you're treated like you are worthless than sawdust. Your mate has cheated on you for the second time. Your dog ate your favorite pair of shoes.🐶 

After a while, you have to say to yourself, "I am allowing this to happen to me but why?". 

Step 1: Take Responsibility/ Acknowledgement It
Taking responsibility or acknowledging your part in a situation that hurts you is hard. That does not mean you shouldn't do it or simply fall on blaming the other person. Doing something that is difficult leads to a journey of growth you couldn't imagine. In the process of taking ownership of your role in a situation keep in mind if you did not set boundaries then you left room for the person to do things that they believe you are okay with. Setting boundaries can be done in a magnitude of ways but the older I get the more I realize that you need to blatantly tell people what you deem acceptable/ unacceptable. 
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So I said it one day (well to myself), "I allowed them to try me by letting them think that I would forgive their selfish actions and let them back into my life". I took responsibility for my part in that. I took responsibility for each time that someone did something to me, I would brush it off or act like I was unbothered. I was so worried about other people's feelings or reactions, I sacrificed my own. Never put others so far ahead of yourself that you crush your own spirit.  It is a draining painful lesson learned but it all forced me to wonder what was I doing to give people that impression of me?

Step 2: Reflect
Many have said that it is human nature to test the boundaries of any relationship because they want to know what they can get away with.
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Well, in almost all situations I wasn't speaking up until it was too far gone or too late. I was letting people get away with borderline murder (not literally of course) because it wasn't that "big of a deal" or to avoid being sensitive, or super emotional, or weak. After deep reflection and some "lonely in a crowd" times, I decided there needed to a change.

I began reading self-love and care books, taking more time for me and really thinking about situations personally without an outside perspective. Slowly but surely it started to become more clear. Although it is natural to want to talk about situations to those you trust, it became increasingly clear that first, your thoughts need to be gathered and feeling set before doing so. Once a person starts discussing a situation with those around them a whole lot can change. 

So in regards to reflecting on myself as a person what do I need to do to let people know, that yes I am nice, kind-hearted and understanding but I will NOT allow anyone to disrespect or try my gangsta (for lack of better terms).  How do I get that message across and still maintain who I am?

Step 3: Guard but not Hard
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This question is not just one that I have asked myself, my friends or family... I literally prayed on it. I turned to every outward source to find the answer because I did not know how to do it. I did not know how to show the world I was not weak but forgiving and those two are extremely different. And just like that, it hit me! The two are different, just as forgiveness does not mean that I have to give the person comfort or even have to let them know that I have forgiven them; I am not weak for walking away or forgiving a person for what they did to me. It also hit me that in the process of forgiving the other perosn I needed to forgive myself for allowing myself to feel stupid or less than because I ended up being hurt by what that person did. Now I can say this with a great deal of confidence that I need to remain guarded but not hardened. I went through the hard phase for a short time and let's just say I was a jerk... some may say I still am... and if they do that means they are on the other side of the wall. 🤷


All of this to say... you cannot control other people. You will not get what you expect because you can't guarantee that someone will act the way you envision as ideal.  Expect the unexpected and have expectations of yourself only. 

Saturday, September 16, 2017

Review of Shanieism Planner

For those who know me well, know that I am always trying to maintain an balance in my life while being organized.  I always have the same people that I ask about planners, EVERYONE! This time I was introduced to a brand new company that is also a Black Owned Business!

Introducing Shanieism!



Kushy Klaw Review

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